This is part 3 of the CIA series, you can read part 1 and part 2.Salesmen, CEOs, coaches, therapists, doctors, politicians, managers, spies… They all (should have) mastered the power of asking and listening.Anyone in a high-responsibility position mu...

I think about how not to become a bitter old woman a lot. Probably too much for a 29-year-old. I’ve spent enough time around miserable people to realize that it’s not how I want to turn out when I get older.So I was curious to understand wh...

How on Earth do you convince a total stranger to trust you? That becomes even harder when you’re an undercover spy, targeting foreign government officials who expect to be targeted due to the nature of their job.*CIA enters the chat*How spi...

I wrote an article about men a while back and it exploded when I uploaded it on Medium. I opened the app one day and there were 99+ notifications 😁 🤷‍♀️And I had to deal with “criticism” for the first time ever. I’ll explain why I put criticism in qu...

You probably don’t know (or care) but initially, my business was teaching men how to become attractive. Even though I pivoted towards coaching and then quit that all together, I wanted to share some thoughts regarding this topic.A while back, I was i...

“What all people feel becomes their point of view of what reality is. If you can learn to manipulate the way people feel, you can make them feel any way you want them to feel.” - Andrew BustamanteThe CIA found that 98% of people are trapped in their ...

The following questions are from James Clear’s Integrity report that he wrote between 2016-2018. I found the questions useful in creating my own value map and thought I would share my values and reasoning behind them in case you want to create your o...

Why I write and what it’s been likeWriting is a full-time job. I didn’t realise how much information I had to consume. It requires hours of reading and listening just to write a short piece.Now when I have conversations, a part of my brain is automat...

This is going to be a bit of a mindf*ckI’m going to ask you to read the following piece from the point of your experience not your conceptual understanding of the world. For example, if I ask you to think of the World, you can conceptualise it b...

We are fools and the game is rigged.A reader asked a question (thank you, Emma). “Where to stop your personal development? Sometimes I feel disconnected because it’s never enough. It makes me feel like I keep chasing something and am also unhappy wit...

The following exercise isn’t for someone who experienced acute trauma. This is for someone who has something they did or had something happen to them in the past that they haven’t quite let go of yet.There are 2 things to know before you begin:we can...

13 ideas I (try to) live byThis is a collection of thoughts/ideas I have collected over the years. I assigned authorship when I could remember who it came from 😁1. We usually know in advance how we'll fail at something, or how we tend to quit. S...

Hello and welcome to the ultimate guide to healing the past.We all have experiences in our lives that have left a lasting impact, and sometimes those experiences can hold us back from living our best lives. However, with the right tools and mindset, ...

A mindset shift!I love noticing how other people see me. Although it matches some of the ways I view myself, it’s never quite the same.Different people see something different in meA wonderful woman I befriended recently called me gracious and it’s t...

It is human to seek validation from other people. Usually, the closer someone is to us, the more we need them to validate us.Let’s consider the circle of people in our livesNow, if a total stranger doesn’t support my decision I don’t care that much.I...